Things that bother others will get sick! Xu Ruiyun: Only by finding the source of pressure in your heart can your body become truly better
Editorial: When life comes to the second half of it, health is the greatest asset. We focus on diet and exercise, but often ignore the impact of pressure on the body. Xu Ruiyun, an internship physician at Ciqi Hospital in Hualien, pointed out that the suppressed emotion has an impact on the immune system, self-discipline neurons, and pressure hormones, and is also the potential cause of many diseases. How can we relieve the burden of emotional love and let ourselves have a truly healthy body?
The body of a person is a machine. Long-term use will be difficult to avoid wear, calcination, or even failure. In order to extend the life of the body, people pay attention to the care. Regular exercise, maintain a good life schedule, and try various healthy diets. But few people realize that nurturing is also necessary to maintain one's heart.
Xu Ruiyun, an internal medicine physician at Cijian Hospital in Hualien, has jointly promoted the concept of "Medical Medicine" with Zheng Xian'an, a partner of the same doctor. They have received regular medical training and have a doctor's license, but they have found many diseases in the clinic that cannot be found for the cause. Only after tracing the layers, we found that the setbacks and injustice encountered by the parties in the past have become undercurrents of suppressed emotions in the subconscious mind. These thoughts move the physiological mechanisms of the human body, affecting the immune system, autonomic nerves, pressure hormones, etc., and eventually turn into different forms of diseases.
Find out the source of pressure in your heart, and the body will regain the force, which will improve. Will people's thoughts really affect their health? In fact, there have been many discussions on emotions when considering the theories of Chinese and Western medicine. The Chinese medical classic "Su Qu" mentioned that "all diseases are caused by the atmosphere." It refers to the imbalance in the atmosphere caused by joy, anger, sorrow, and joy, which has become the long cause of the disease. Anger hurts the liver, joy, thoughts hurt the spleen, sadness hurts the lungs, fear hurts the kidneys, and specific emotions are too strong, which will cause damage to the corresponding organs.
In Western Medicine's research, "psychological neuroimmunology" has emerged in recent years to explore the interaction between the brain and the immune system. For example, if the brain-edge system that dominates the human emotional reaction feels too much pressure and emotional ups and downs, it will directly affect the immune system. Excessive or excessive secretion of certain neurotransmitters that connect to the brain may be the cause of immune diseases and endocrine imbalance.
Zheng Xian'an pointed out that the principle of most psychiatric drugs is to regulate the neurotransmitting substances in the human brain. This type of disposal can improve the disease in a short period of time, but it cannot truly solve the cause. Many patients have been relapsed and come back to the clinic.
"The real root cause should be the source of eliminating pressure." Xu Ruiyun said. Clinical experience shows that the curve of human repair force peaks at the age of 20 and 30, and then begins to decline. Men may experience cardiovascular disease, hypertension, hyperglycemia and hyperlipidemia from the age of 40. In the second half of the age of 40 and after menopause, the proportion of the three highs has increased significantly, the rate of bone loss has increased, and the chance of chronic diseases has also increased.
But the good news is that this curve is not unavailable. "People's diet, emotions, and thoughts must be changed, and the body's ability to recover naturally will be improved." Xu Ruiyun emphasized.
The most common problem of family members in relieving each other's burden is "Yourself"A few years ago, a patient in Xu Ruiyun sought a diagnosis of amnesia and found that the pre-brain leaf showed signs of atrophy and degeneration, and he had to take dementia drugs. She found that patients are very prone to worry and anxiety. For example, she often told her husband and children that they were not willing to eat vegetarian food with her, and even believed that their family members had bad breath due to eating meat and poor digestive system. The result of her troubles all day long has caused her physical and mental stress to be extremely stressed and her head is in short supply for a long time.
In Xu Ruiyun's clinic, there are many such patients. Their symptoms vary, but the common point is that they often suffer from things that they cannot control. These "unself-related things" always happen between the closest family relationships: children, parents, and companions.
Xu Ruiyun believes that the 50 generations have an important topic in family relationships: "Let go". For adult children, it is necessary to understand that they are independent. See your children’s nature and don’t try to limit them with your own framework. When facing elderly parents, adult children should also respect their parents' wishes, rather than control themselves in the name of "I am for your own good."
She described the case that her mother had a problem with excessive cervical sterol. She would remind her mother not to eat too much fat or liver, and to do some exercise from the perspective of a professional doctor. But if the mother doesn't want to do it, she will never be compulsive. Because, how to manage health is the decision of parents, not the things children should worry about. "If your parents' behavior makes you worry, then your worry is naturally a problem of "yourself", not a problem of your parents." She said bluntly.
Compared to controlling parents as children, it is another extreme of children that they simply suppress themselves and move away from their parents. Many filial children will have grudges against their parents in their hearts. For example: When you hear your parents marry someone you don’t like or leave someone you love, and when you come with your partner to quarrel or divorce, you will complain that your parents don’t let you make a decision at that time. Even if my parents leave, such grievances cannot be resolved and become a heavy burden in life.
Xu Ruiyun also encountered a patient during the clinic. His face, limbs, and shoulder cloth were covered with rashes. Even if he applied medicine, he could not cure it. She discovered that the patient's long-term self-depression was that his father had very high requirements for her in childhood and could not meet his requirements no matter how good he performed. Even though my father has passed away for many years, the patient always feels dissatisfied whenever he thinks about it.
In order to express the patient's emotions, Xu Ruiyun asked the patient to imagine that the passed away father was right in front of him and said, "Love Dad, thank you for giving birth to me and nourishing me. With love and respect, I will give you the expectations and requirements that belong to you.. I can choose to be myself easily and don’t need to meet your expectations. "The cause of the pressure disappeared, the patient's mood was much relaxed, and the skin problems naturally improved.
"All relationships with people are your relationship with yourself. When you can reconcile yourself, you will reconcile with the person who harmed you." Xu Ruiyun pointed out that the death in a relationship can be resolved and not related to the other party. Like or resent, all emotions are your own. When you can let go, the emotional burden that pressures life will become lighter.
I don't want to make marriage a couple's relationship with you. I want to make my marriage a better place to wear it.The marriage life that is day and night is also a source of pressure from many people. After many years of medical treatment, Xu Ruiyun has seen many patients with injuries. The anger was so strong and uneasy, and even he was still resentful when he divorced. "House and wife are two people of different backgrounds and different thinking, and they have to be together for a long time. It is normal to have conflicts," she pointed out.
She observed that the failure of men and women in 50 generations in marriage was related to the education they received since childhood. Women born in the 50s grew up in families that favor men and women. In order to win the love of their parents and limited resources, they need to encourage themselves to fight for the upstream. Unlike the previous generation of women who were willing to complain, most of them had their own business and hoped to be on par with men and share family affairs together.
But in contrast, the family model that men born in the 50s, who are engaging in from childhood to adulthood still does not detract from the traditional gender division of labor: the father is the head of the family and the mother takes care of the big and small things in the family, and there is no previous example of men sharing family affairs and physically sticking to women. The difference in concepts eventually became the induction of friction in marriage. It is also because of this that couples divorce after the age of 50 are higher than those in previous generations. Xu Ruiyun analyzed the woman's attitude, "She has economic ability, and it is not bad for her husband to be at home or not. If she divorces, she will have one less person to serve."
Xu Ruiyun also admitted that even though she and her husband have a deep relationship and both of them are experts in medicine, there are still conflicts in their marriage. For example, she used to behave before 10 o'clock, but her husband was often busy with work and didn't get married until 2 or 3 o'clock in the middle of the night. After the two were together, they began to adjust each other, one delayed slightly, and the other went to bed as early as possible. Also, the two of them went to the meeting together, and they were as impatient as she could leave in 5 minutes. The gentleman often spends half an hour preparing. Even the order of washing dishes and putting them into the bowl dryer can be the cause of the conflict.
conflicts are difficult to avoid, how to resolve them? Xu Ruiyun is a metaphor for marriage, like a pair of shoes. I can't let go of the foot after wearing it. There are several prescriptions. You can change the shoes to suit your feet more, or put on a shoe mat or wear thick trousers to make yourself suitable for the shoes. In a relationship, you should either try to negotiate with the other party or change your own ideas.
For example, the husband is a nightcat, and the wife likes to go to bed early and get up early. So, is it possible that both parties will take a step back and get lost at 11 o'clock? One of the couple is shocked and the other is a slow doctor. It is better to preview the time for departure early, so that the slow people have plenty of preparation, and the anxious people don’t have to wait. The order of the two people put the bowls into the bowl dryer was different. Shouldn’t the person who washes the dishes more often decide what to do?
Changing one's own mind will also make old relationships have a new atmosphere. "You can't marry a cat, but you always admire others for raising dogs." Xu Ruiyun's wonderful metaphor. She once saw a post in the face club discussing the 10 advantages of the company, and some people couldn't even come out. "If you see the shortcomings of the company, this relationship really can't continue."
She suggested that a relationship usually needs to accumulate "loved deposits". When a conflict occurs, think about the other party's goodness. "I can think of a hundred good things for my husband to me at once, and there is no good mood at that moment," said Xu Ruiyun. This principle is also applicable to husband and wife, family, friends, and colleagues.
, Mr. He has practiced for many years. Xu Ruiyun believes that life has various setbacks. Love is free from suffering, hate is suffering, and seeking is suffering, and the suffering is suffering, and the suffering is not obtained after 50 years. It is naturally the same as birth, old age, sickness and death that you have to face after 50 years. "Of course, my life is not a breeze. When I am born as a human being, I will always be in trouble."
Since life is so hard, how can I not be stressed when I live? Xu Ruiyun reminds that when you encounter something you can’t get through, ask yourself what it is first? "Facts are always things, don't let them go. Those who resist things will lose 100%." Don't waste time in life and regret it. Only by facing and accepting it first can you handle it well and get peace after letting go.
If the mood is "stuck" for a while, Xu Ruiyun suggests that you might as well use a few simple practices to release energy. For example, if you want to release pressure, you can do the "10-second breathing method": recite the numbers silently in your mind, inhale slowly for 4 seconds, exhale for 4 seconds, and stop for 2 seconds, so that the breathing rate will drop to 6-7 times per minute. Breathing and resting can reduce the activity of the sympathetic nerves and reduce the concentration.
In addition, walking is also a good way to eliminate negative energy. Find a piece of grass, sand, or anywhere you can walk safely. Every step I take, I focus entirely on my feet and feel the feeling of my toes gripping on the ground, touching the ground. It not only absorbs the energy of nature, but also makes the floating emotions in the brain sink and makes the mind calm.
"If life is truly free, it must learn to accept everything happening." Xu Ruiyun said. After the age of 50, there are many challenges in both body and life. The more you resist, the more happiness will only leave you. If you know how to make your favorite life, you will naturally be healthy!
Original text: If you mess with others, you will get sick! Xu Ruiyun: Only by finding the source of pressure in your heart can your body truly improve
