Life is hard to regret! Thank you Zuwu: It is useless to hurt sorrow, it is better to cherish the reunion, make more money, and have more muscles than to cherish

Note: In January (2020), Xie Zuwu won the Asian Video Emperor with the role of dementia in the TV series "The First Lover". In July, he will perform the stage drama "The Last Lover" again to explore the issue of life and death disputes. After living away from his father and taking care of his dementia mother, he felt more profound in his regrets about life after 50s. In order to reduce regrets, the hard-core man like Huashanyan became softer as he was.

In front of the light, Xie Zuwu is an ageless male god. A signature smile can charm the audience below the stage; but in private, he is actually a serious man who does not talk about the "May 43". He is almost not showing weakness in front of the public due to his father's death and his mother's dementia. At the beginning of the visit, he calmed himself down: "I am the silo of the silo, and I let the waves invade and the wind blow and rain blow, but it still remains unchanged."

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grew up in the strict tutor of a military father, and at the age of 17, he entered the acting circle. Xie Zuwu has developed a tough personality. He not only rarely gathered with friends for leisure, nor did he feel comfortable talking to his wife about his heart's pressure. Faced with setbacks and shocks in life, I always have strong habits and my tragedy and pain that I can't speak can be silently borne by myself.

Until last year, he took on the first stage drama of life, "The Last Love Book", which explored the final topic of life and death. Xie Zuwu, who has always been respectful, originally only put the script as part of his work until the end of the performance. He felt a sense of injury on his chest. He remembered that his father was not around when he left; he also remembered that his mother was demented and no longer remember who he was. Xie Zuwu realized: "The so-called regret is not that it is not that it is too late to say; but that he did not expect it when he really thought about it, but that he could no longer do it."

This tragedy changed his closed social habits, and began to take the initiative to invite friends to eat and cherish every moment of gathering with their parents. The facial posts that were originally considered part of their work have become more willing, and they are even willing to show their interest in collecting dolls in their spare time and their funnyness and no reservations in front of the public.

A piece of invincible Hualang finally quietly opened the soft part of the heart.

After the immemorial and distant traditional father and son still tried to understand and reconcile after they passed away

How many people realized at the end of their lives that all the love, hatred, unexplained and confusion in the world would eventually turn into reluctance and become regrets that they could not reconcile? If we could do it again, can we understand it earlier and walk the final journey with blessings and love?

Recalling the last side with his father, Xie Zuwu can still tell the details clearly, as if that scene has been played countless times in his brain. That day was the day when he went to Wuxi to take a photo. He took his wife and children to his parents' residence. When he left, his father was talking nonsense. He had to remember to bring more clothes and work hard. It was obviously a daily and ordinary conversation, but unexpectedly it became a difference between father and son.

"That was a bad memory, but it was ultimately the only one," said Xie Zuwu, while apologizing for his own silence. "The last sentence he explained during his lifetime, to say what he got from it, besides grief, it is to "cherish" and cherish every time the family and friends gather together." Behind the silence, in addition to the regret of not being able to accompany his father to leave, it also includes reflection on the relationship between father and son. Xie Zuwu has a lot of complaints about his father. "He is taciturn, a father like a rock. He often calls me a fool and rarely praises me. I ask him, "How do you think I am acting like this?" He always says, "I don't think it's like that."

, with a memory of a father and son who is always full of conflict, the last thing Zuwu did was to reconcile.

In January, he went to Leehom Lee's concert in Kaohsiung with his wife, who sang the "New Old Song":

"I only treated myself in those years. Although I pursued him, he was unable and could not participate.

I only remember that I was anxious. Maybe because of this, I couldn't hear his faint praise.

I knew he must be proud,

just couldn't wait for the opportunity, so I told me in person"

It seemed that I sang that I had been with my father for many years. The relationship between family relationships has been apart from the regret of not being able to say goodbye that year, and I can't help but begin to reflect: "I used to think that my father was not good, but after I became a father, I realized that I was not doing well. Why did I ask my father for my father at first?"

It has been more than 10 years since my father passed away. Xie Zuwu still visited his father in the air, standing in front of the tower alone and muttering himself, talking about the affairs at home, the mother's body, and some work situations, and even complaining that he didn't say anything that year. "Dad should think I'm very terrible and cowardly," Xie Zuwu smiled faintly. "But this is my secret, me and his mens ' talk. I don't want to show it out normally, but in front of my father, I will always be the little boy who debuted and filmed."

Even if my dementia mother doesn't remember it, she will continue to love her

In "The Last Love Book", she explored the question of the end of life, and also made Xie Zuwu realize that everything in the world has a place to be saved, but life can't do it. Therefore, we must make changes through actual actions when we come, so as to reduce the regrets in our hearts when we say goodbye.

After my mother was demented, Xie Zuwu spent a lot of time taking care of her mother and let her live in the same community for visiting her.

"When I went yesterday, I found that my mother's hair was cut shorter than her, just like a little boy. The rehabilitator held her hands and taught her to walk. It took only a short distance from the restaurant to the bedroom, and it took more than half an hour.. "The continuous degeneration is not only the body function, but also the memory of gradually regressing. "Yesterday my mother also said, "Did Xiaowu go to school?" It was funny at first, but I couldn't laugh. Her memory of me was still stuck when I was reciting books, and even confused me and my son."

Every scene I watched was a daily life of illness, and it was even more painful for the Son of Man to be unable to calm down. Facing his mother who is already in the middle and late stages of illness, the rehabilitation teacher reminded Xie Zuwu to "be mentally prepared". Although he has been with dementia for more than 8 years, he is still nervous. "The more he is ready, the more he cares about 'that day'."

The only thing he can do to protect people who have no memory is to continue to love her. Even if she doesn't remember or know, she must regret it and have less regret.

But to Huajunyan's personality, Xie Zuwu said that he even expressed his love for his mother. Sometimes he saw that his wife was by his side, and even if he was full of emotions, he could not say the words "I love you." "I always feel like I'm shooting a TV," he said with a wry smile. He had to touch his mother's face, and even just looked at her from the side. Only then did he realize that during the acting, he could easily say so much "I love you". It was difficult to get to love around him. He had to wait until only two people were alone before he could dare to say to his mother lightly, "I love you very much."

Faced with the things that life and death taught him to change the closure and slowly let him go

Faced with the shadow of life, Xie Zuwu has been working hard. He is serious and often only when he is working, he will interact with others and laugh. Most of the community websites are published under the supervision of his wife. It was not until the performance of "The Last Love Book" last year that he changed his lonely and closed character and slowly released himself.

"I have become a little more alive. In addition to cherishing myself, I also have to cherish my friends and friends around me. Don't close myself up every day," Xie Zuwu smiled and said that Huajunyan is more like a "stone man".

People say "Mr. In middle age", people always feel happy more often than sad when they are young; but after 50 years old, even if the sun shines the next day, they will worry about the next second of the typhoon.

He will use more aggressive actions to compete with this mentality. Thank you Zuwu to share that you should not put yourself in the past memories, but use actual actions to make yourself "busy". "Your sorrow cannot be saved, you should make more money, your body is better, and your muscles are more."

Stay curious and learn to play Douyin and Animal Crossing Club

In addition to being a self-requirement as an actor, Xie Zuwu also expressed his pressure through sports. After his mother was demented, he has maintained a 4-day habit of running for 8 years. Sometimes he exercised under the house, sometimes played ball, and even played sandbags. The result of persistence not only brought him an ageless appearance, but also made him feel ejaculated.

Or in the leisure time when you are not working, Xie Zuwu will hide in his afternoon book room where he is sunny and avoid real troubles. There are all kinds of books on the shelves, from "Harry Potter" to "Ancient Literature Views", from Jin Yong's complete works to "I Love Identity and Status", all of which are collected by Xie Zuwu. "I like reading books very much. You can not be beaten by anyone. You Xiaobao, Guo Jing, or Miaoli, and Rongrong in the book. All the characters in the book will accompany you, and you will not be alone."

In addition to sports and reading books, Xie Zuwu is still an "curious baby". Recently, I have not only learned to play "Tik Tok" with young people, but also participated in filming various social experiments to observe the changes in social hearts at the moment. He even generously shared that he has been popular with the "Animal Crossing Club" recently. He likes to fish on it the most, and no one cares about you. "I am so happy to have a lot of fish on the island alone." But even then he suddenly flew, "But the longer I play, the more I feel that this game is a laughing knife. , the cat above is basically the manager of the loan department! "

Whether it is to go to exercise, read books, try all kinds of new things, or open your mind to let others enter your own life, Zuwu has regained a new meaning in his life after 50s because of his reflection on the old subjects. "We cannot avoid regrets, but we can reduce regrets." Cherishing people around us with actions and using actions to fulfill our daily lives is to write a trace of not regret for the second half of our life.

Original text: Life is hard to avoid regrets! Thank you Zuwu: It is useless to hurt sorrow, it is better to cherish gathering, make more money, and have more muscles